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Friday, February 10, 2006

To have loved and lost

There seems to be some confusion about the poetry on my blog lately, so let me clear it up for you; not everything I write has happened to me. Yes, dear readers not everything is about me, and even when it is about me, it may not have happened recently. Unfortunately, my life is not that interesting or that painful all at once.

Is it better to have loved and lost, than never to have loved at all? I know the people who say it is better to have loved are usually people who are generally happy with their love lives. What about the people in the midst of a really bad break up, do they still think it is better to have loved and lost than never at all? Of if you are completely in love with someone who is bad for you? Would you rather never have fallen for them in the first place? And if you are months after having your heart broke and still have a gaping hole where your soul used to be and you can’t shake the extreme loneliness and pain. Would you rather have never loved at all?

posted by Spin_Doc1 at 1:09 PM

8 Comments:

  • I have loved and lost. I've loved someone completely wrong for me. I've lost someone who I loved but was completely right for me. (see regret) But I think that my life would feel incomplete without ever have loving someone.

    But you ask VERY good questions. =)

    Have a great weekend!!

    By Blogger April, at 3:22 PM  

  • Thank you April. I am off to drink large quantities of alcohol!

    By Blogger Spin_Doc1, at 3:29 PM  

  • Months? - Years!

    But still, in the words of Edith Piaf,
    "Non, Rien De Rien, Non, Je Ne Regrette Rien". I mostly regret things I didn't do.

    By Blogger Ellen, at 5:35 PM  

  • Thank you Ellen, I value your comments.

    By Blogger Spin_Doc1, at 12:22 AM  

  • Things Ellen did not do:
    - kick WZ's ass
    - have sex with me
    (Though I am quite sure those are not on the list of things she regrets not to have done.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 11:25 PM  

  • In a different context, no, I'd rather not have loved at all. No amount of pain through still birth is worth the anticipated love of a new arrival.

    By Blogger Michelle, at 7:53 PM  

  • Naive, I am so sorry. I wish there was something I could do to help you.

    By Blogger Spin_Doc1, at 9:08 PM  

  • I'm okay now.

    People used to tell me that someday I'd be able to look on that experience fondly. But, if I had known how it would end, I would never have gotten pregnant. That pretty much sums up, "better to have loved and lost, than not have loved at all". Not in this instance, but most likely in others.

    (Hm, suddenly I'm singing "The Dance" by Garth Brooks)

    By Blogger Michelle, at 11:00 AM  

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