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Thursday, September 22, 2005

Affairs

A friend of mine just found her husband having sex with her best friend. I am blown away by this news! I have no idea what to say to her or how to help her, so I typed “My husband is having an affair” into Google. This is the one of the sites:

The first step is to be the very best wife you can possibly be. Do everything you can to meet his needs, and don't do anything to upset him. Set a period of time that you think you can do this without getting too upset, say, six months. Once in a while, tell him that you think both of you need a fresh start somewhere else.

What the fcuk! I don’t know what to tell her but I sure in the hell don’t agree with that statement. So what do you tell your friend whose husband was caught in the act with her best friend?

posted by Spin_Doc1 at 10:29 AM

7 Comments:

  • Woah! Not exactly meaningless stuff you're posting there!

    I think words are the wrong thing in this situation. Rather, this is where your pepper spray or mace would come in handy.

    By Blogger SVM, at 9:43 PM  

  • Tell the friend that the husband has many serious and even
    unclassified STD's...just to up the drama level.

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 9:07 AM  

  • Everyone: The situation is getting worse, he told her to "get over it" or he would leave. Now she is frightened that he is going to leave her.

    By Blogger Spin_Doc1, at 7:28 PM  

  • Ok, his reaction clearly identifies him as an asshole. But other than that, I really don't understand all the fuss. If they want to have sex, let them have sex. Faithfulness was useful when there were no effective contraceptives and when it was hard for women to be financially independent - but those times are long over. Faithfulness is an obsolete concept. He should have just involved his wife in their activities.

    By the way, good to see you are still here! :-)

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:58 AM  

  • It is so typical. He is the one who is having the affair and he is the one who is threatening to leave. Unfortunatelly this is not the first time I see this.

    I would tell her to take some space to clear her thoughts so she can take her decision trying her best to be as hounest as she can with herself.

    Never fall for his threats. And whatever decision she takes. Not to look back is the only way she can move. And in both cases time would heal the biggest wounds.

    Do they have kids?

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 2:48 PM  

  • Yes they have two children, the youngest just turned 13 months.

    By Blogger Spin_Doc1, at 3:03 PM  

  • When kids are involved in the story there is no easy way out.
    You know what I think. This man bothered himself to discuss the matter with her now. One day she will catch him again and never say anything.

    I think if she did not leave him she would loose a piece of herself everyday!

    By Anonymous Anonymous, at 8:24 PM  

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