A circle has too much symmetry

Wednesday, April 09, 2008

I found some comfort

I am once again living in a hotel room which seems to be my life recently; I still have a home I just don’t visit it very often. Yesterday after my shower I cleaned my earrings and left them on the bathroom counter. I continued to get ready for the day and after I dressed I went to put on my earrings and one of my diamonds was missing. I searched everywhere, twice; thought through all the possible places it could have fallen and then searched another 4 times. I did not find it. I was so upset and I started crying; alone in my hotel room crying because I couldn’t find my earring. I called the Love of my Life who gave me the earrings for our first Christmas together and it made me feel even worse. I got angry with him because I was calling for comfort and did not receive it. I then sent a text message to Fozzie and the Kid which said “I am in tears! I just lost my diamond earring. I am so upset!”

The Kid responded in a much similar way to the Love of my Life accusing me of not searching hard enough for it and being negligent in keeping track of my valuables. Boy was that not what I wanted to hear, because how could I be so stupid was running in stereo in my head at the moment. I also did not know where to search; all my searches had been fruitless.

Fozzie responded with “I am so sorry. It is just a material object and can be replaced unless it has sentimental value. Try not to worry about it too much. We’ll get you another one when you return.” A few hours later he sent “How are you doing honey?” It was exactly want I needed, comfort. I was able to think clearly after someone gave me some sympathy and realized the earrings are insured and I will replace them when I return home.

1 Comments:

  • It seems like when we need help too many people immediately jump to solving the problem. That often means stating the obvious or telling us what we SHOULD have done differently to prevent it from happening in the first place. This pattern seems particularly common in men. They are more comfortable with problem solving than empathy. Often, what we really need is someone to say, "I'm sorry that happened." "I know you feel sad." "I care about you."

    I'm sorry you lost your earring, Sweet girl, but I'm glad you have at least one supportive friend that you can count on.

    By Blogger Theresa, at 7:43 PM  

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